Salty Sam’s Fun Blog for Children
Number 511
Building Self-Esteem
Hello Everyone
Miss Pringle was talking to her class about self-esteem this week.
She started by asking them a question.
Did you know that if you believe in yourself, others will too?
Believing in yourself – that means thinking you are capable and worthwhile is called having self-esteem.
This doesn’t mean being bossy and big-headed and selfish and pushing your own needs before everyone else’s all the time.
lf you treat other people well and show them respect, that will give you self-esteem because you know you are behaving decently.
lf you have low self-esteem, it stops you living the life you truly want to live because you will think you’re not worth what you want; that you don’t deserve to get it.
Unfortunately, humans often think they are what other people tell them they are. They are always looking for validation from others rather than looking inside themselves for their own strength and wisdom.
This is not easy to do but it is a challenge that is worth overcoming. Sometimes people are really horrible to you. Being the hero of your own life is better than being the victim of your own life.
People are very often told to always put others before themselves.
This is specially told to females in a lot of cultures; that the needs of others are more important than their own. This just builds up resentment in the person that feels that they are just used and unimportant.
Always putting others before yourself is not correct.
Look after yourself first and you will always be strong and healthy enough to help other people.
Always put other’s need before your own and you will become a broken husk of your former self.
There are many things that you can do to build your self-esteem.
Many little ways that all add up to create your self-worth.
Tell yourself you are enough and worthwhile, and the more you believe something is true in your head, the more it will become true in your life.
Treat yourself with kindness. Be your best friend; you are the person you spend most of your time with – your whole life with!
Be with friends who treat you well.
Be a peace-maker not a trouble-maker.
Learn to talk to people of all ages.
Limit your screen time and make an effort to be with good company.
Keep your promises and always try to do the right thing even when you have to be brave to do it. Don’t do something you know is wrong just to fit into the crowd.
lf you have good posture and stand up straight it signals to others through your body language that you have self-esteem.
Always be trying to learn new things and take responsibility for your learning. Teachers often notice that the people with very high-ability who don’t think they have to try, do not do as well as those who struggle a bit with their learning but try really hard!
Get your work done. Don’t mess about and put it off. The word for this is procrastinating.
Grow your talents; whether they are to do with sport or music or art or cooking or whatever.
Learn how to do things properly. This will give you self-esteem. Not everything you learn is from a lesson at school.
Have the courage to face doing things when you have fear. Courage is like a muscle. The more you use it the more you realise you have it. This builds self-esteem too. You cannot expand yourself without courage because going into the unknown to do new things is often scary for humans of any age.
Focus on the things you have control over and can do something about, rather than moaning about things you cannot change; things like the weather.
Realize that sometimes if there are things you think should be changed, but you are not strong enough to change on your own, banding together with other people can make a huge difference; for example joining in with a national petition to ask the government to change something, or starting some fundraising to pay for something, or lending a hand to help a scheme to plant trees to help the environment, or simply suggesting that something should be done like asking your school caretaker to leave a field margin around your school field.
Then be proud of your efforts even if you haven’t fully succeeded, you have probably made some kind of difference. Lots of little differences can add up.
Forgive yourself your mistakes and learn from them; after all nobody is perfect. lf something goes wrong, don’t give up at the first attempt; just think how you might tackle things differently next time.
Think ahead and plan things properly, don’t leave things to chance. This gives you a more of a chance to take control of a situation and be positive.
When you tackle projects that are large or difficult, take small steps to achieve them.
When you feel sad for no reason, take responsibility to do something to cheer yourself up. lf you feel sad for a reason maybe you will feel better if your talk to someone you trust about it.
Think about how you can find solutions to problems instead of feeling sad about the problem. This will make you feel more powerful.
lf someone does something spiteful to you, think about how to make your own life better rather than taking revenge.
Success is the best revenge, because the person who tried to put you down will see that they have not succeeded. You will be the winner!
Don’t compare yourself to other people, especially on social media. They may not really be as sorted as they appear; they may even be not telling the truth.
Compare your present self to your past self, and see how much you have grown as a person.
Now look at the people in the Picture Gallery this week, and think about what the people are doing wrong to make themselves so unhappy.
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Salty Sam
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This week, Miss Pringle asked her class a strange question.
It wasn’t the normal kind of question she asked like: where do you put a full stop, or what is the capital city of Australia, or what is 10 times 10.
She asked the children if they would know how to call for help if they were alone and there were no adults around to tell them what to do. For example, if there was an emergency like their mum had fallen over and couldn’t move.
A lot of the children said they knew that you could call for an ambulance by dialling 999 (it might be a different number in another country).
Miss Pringle asked the children if they knew how to tell someone their address.
If the person answering your call knows your address, they can send help to you straight away.
When the ambulance is getting near your house you will hear it. The people who will arrive in it will be wearing green clothing and they will probably be carrying a bag.
It will help them enormously if you can open the front door to let them in.
Miss Pringle said that children as young as three or four years old have been able to call an ambulance and save their mum’s life.
It is understandable when you call for help you might feel panicky and upset, but it really will be helpful if you can try and stay calm so that you can give information to the person at the other end of your phone.
The faster they get the information they need, the faster you will get help!
Of course, if you are at your grandparents’ house for example and you need to call for an ambulance you will need to give the address you are at, not where you live. The ambulance people need to know where to send the ambulance!
The person answering the phone might ask you questions like what your name is and how old you are. They want to keep you talking because it is important for them to stay connected to you.
They might ask you really important questions, like whether the person who has fallen over is breathing.
If a fire breaks out, the most important thing is to get people out of the building as quickly as possible and take your pets with you if you can grab them quickly as you go.
You can call for help on a mobile phone or run to a neighbour for help.
Miss Pringle was happy that all the children in her class could tell somebody their address with the postcode.
Can you?
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Quick Quiz
What do these idioms mean?
- to hit someone like a ton of bricks
- to open doors
- a window on the world
- to lay foundations
- like talking to a brick wall
- to go through the roof
- to get a foot in the door
lt’s the Weekend!
HOW TO MAKE SOME PENGUlN PRESENT LABELS
If you have just discovered you don’t have enough present labels and you need a few more, here is a quick and easy design of label for you to make.
You may want to make some anyway, just for fun, and to help your mum out.
Get some card from a food box and paint the printed side black.
Make sure that you paint is not too wet so that your card won’t go wobbly and buckled! This black side will be the back of your penguins.
Also make sure you put plenty of newspaper down before you start working in case you splash some paint about.
Then while the paint is drying, you can make a penguin-shaped stencil to draw around.
You can make this by drawing around two jar tops. One will be smaller than the other to make a head on top of a body.
When you draw a penguin design on your labels, make sure to leave plenty of room on his tummy to write someone’s name and maybe even a message.
Colour in his wings and a triangular marking on his head black.
You can give him coloured eyes and beak as well.
You can make a hole in the top of his head with a hole-punch and tie some thread through – or you can just tape the label to the present.
The pattern for the present stocking in the picture is on Blog Post 505.
Please note that the material on this blog is for personal use and for use in classrooms only.
It is a copyright infringement and, therefore, illegal under international law to sell items made with these patterns.
Use of the toys and projects is at your own risk.
©Christina Sinclair Designs 2015
Quick Quiz Answers
- to hit someone like a ton of bricks – to hit really hard
- to open doors – to get opportunities
- a window on the world – the possibility to get information from many sources (like on TV)
- to lay foundations – to get a good start on a project
- like talking to a brick wall – not persuading someone or getting them to listen to your point of view
- to go through the roof – get angry
- to get a foot in the door – get an opportunity to work in or with an organization
